Kilometers for Kids arrives Sept 2 in Edmonton

I have recently found out that Rodney STAFFORD - father of Tori STAFFORD who was abducted/murdered in April/May - will be undertaking a 3,200km Bike Tour from Woodstock ON (where they lived) to Edmonton AB (where his sister lives) in his daughter memory. He departs on August 2 and expects to arrive in Edmonton September 2. Once here he will travel with his family to Jasper and release a purple balloon for Tori who had enjoyed her trip to the mountain park last summer on a visit to her aunts, before her life was so cruelly taken.

Obviously Rodney STAFFORD, Tori, her brother and her mom Tara McDonald were like many separated families trying to deal with the aftermath of a breakup and in new relationships etc. and were trying to juggle all of the complex interactions. I recall reading that in the months before the end, Tori had written her dad a letter asking him to stay in her life as I suppose they must have had some difficulties. Very human and understandable.

I have been in touch with Mr. STAFFORD via email and am asking for everyone's help. It can be anything - cash donations, support vehicles, accommodation enroute (not clear right now, will be decided soon) riders to accompany the team throughout Alberta, Welcome Groups/PR or Promotion in various towns - anything, really. In addition we want to have a BIG WELCOME on his Arrival Sep 2 - TBA!

If you have something to contribute or and idea, let me know at albertapaao@gmail.com or call 406-565-4594 and leave message so I can get back to you.

Gender bias evident in parental alienation cases

I apolgize for not including this earlier - my excuse is I do not get the Globe & Mail. Thanks to Mike for bringing it to my attention.

As to prevalence by gender, I don't think this "study" proves anything except what popular opinion already reflects, but it is pretty clear that this is not a "representative" sample (among the potential methodological weaknesses I could foresee). Dr. Amy BAKER in her book Breaking the ties that Bind contends that she sees the breakdown as 50/50 - but admits that is not a rigourous evaluation either. It is only based on feedback from her website. In any event, I'm not sure it matters unlss one wants to claim male or female "superority or victimhood". Given the greater numbers of women gaining sole custody, it seems more likely they can exercise PA more often than men. It is also very likely that the cost of fighting a PA Battle discourages many men and women of even thinking of going through the courts, so they would not show up.

I recall Shelly JONES saying that "PA is equal-opportunity child abuse because bad behaviour knows no gender."

Gender bias evident in parental alienation cases

Mothers are more likely to be the parent behind children's estrangement, yet fathers more often ordered into counselling, study finds. KIRK MAKIN March 28, 2009

JUSTICE REPORTER -- A study of alienated children has found that mothers were significantly more likely to be the parent who emotionally poisoned their children than were fathers.

Toronto family lawyer Gene Colman told a Toronto symposium yesterday that of 74 court rulings that found parental alienation since 1987, the mother was the alienator in 50 cases. The father was the alienating parent in 24.

"I'm not trying to dump on moms," Mr. Colman told about 150 psychologists, family lawyers, mediators and activist parents. "I'm just saying, that is what the data reveal."

In parental alienation syndrome, an estranged parent systematically brainwashes a child into hating the other parent. The profile of the syndrome escalated over the past year, after three Ontario judges ordered that children be removed from an alienating parent and taken to U.S. clinics for deprogramming therapy.

Mr. Colman said that alienating fathers were twice as likely to be ordered to undergo counselling as were mothers in alienation cases - a finding that raises serious questions about whether judges are exhibiting gender biases. Twelve of the 50 alienating mothers in his study were ordered into counselling, as compared with 13 of 24 fathers. "As social scientists will tell you, that is a high level of statistical significance in terms of differential treatment by gender," Mr. Colman said. "As lawyers and judges, we have to be vigilant to make sure that we ... are not influenced by whether the mom is the alienator or the dad is the alienator.

There should be no differential in how either gender is dealt with." The other findings in Mr. Colman's study included: The number of parental alienation cases has shot up from 21 between1987 and 2000 to 53 between 2000 and 2008. Fathers who had their alienated children switched from their homes were granted some form of access by the courts in a "much lower" percentage of cases than were mothers. Fathers who alienate their children are somewhat more likely to have their children removed from their residence and relocated with the mother. Mr. Colman said that of cases where the father was the alienator, children were ordered to switch to the mother's residence in 78 per cent of cases. In contrast, 62 per cent of the mothers who alienated their children had them switched to the father's home. "It would seem that if you are the dad, you have a greater probability of having the residence changed on you," said Mr. Colman, founding editor of the Canadian Journal of Family Law and founding member of the Canadian Equal Parenting Council.